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Thirty Ways To A Perfect Wedding Day
by
David Ireland for Sandra Ireland Photography

One. Start your wedding preparations early -from the day you get engaged! Decide with your partner exactly what sort of wedding you would both would like. Formal or informal? Intimate or extravagant? Fix the date and allocate enough time to plan your dream wedding.

Two. Once you have decided on the venue for the ceremony, book it as early as you can. Popular dates during the summer are booked anything up to a year in advance.

Three. Money is the singular most important factor in planning a wedding. Arrange a meeting for everyone who will be contributing towards the cost involved and set a realistic budget. Decide at an early stage who will be paying for what and discuss the exact details with them. Arrange wedding day insurance. Most companies offer packages to cover accidents prior to and on the big day itself - just in case.

Four. The reception venue needs to be booked and confirmed as soon as possible. It is a good idea to visit as many possible reception venues as you can to compare what each one has to offer. Always ask for written quotes so you can make your decision at home without feeling pressurised.

Five. Now compile the guest list and decide on the type of catering you require. A lunchtime buffet works well when your guests are a mixture of young and old. It also keeps costs down. A formal sit-down meal is wonderful but is also your most expensive option. Ask the experts' advice on getting value-for-money and your best choices of drinks for the number of guests. The caterers will have many years experience on menu planning so take their advice when given. They know what works and what doesn't.

Six. Once you’ve located the perfect venue, call to discuss all possibilities. To get a real feel of the place, drop in to have a look around. If it still feels right, you’re on your way. Now, book the date, time and number of rooms you will need. Check and double-check availability and ask for confirmation in writing.

Seven. If you are having a sit-down reception, ask a local calligrapher to make the menu cards and place-names. Enlist your parents to help with the seating plans to avoid any family upsets.

Eight. Now for the wedding dress. It can take up to eight weeks to make a gown, even one bought of-the-peg. Try on as many different styles of dress as you can. Some wedding styles of dresses have little hanger appeal but look stunning when you’re inside. Wedding dresses are expensive, so why not consider hiring the dress? A one-off designer gown costs about the same as an off-the-peg manufacturers dress. Once you have chosen your gown, buy some sensuous bridal lingerie. To ensure a perfect fit, take it along to one of the fittings.

Nine. Choose your 'something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue'. This is the prefect opportunity to wear treasured family jewellery and gifts from very special friends.

Ten. Time for a little retail therapy with your bridesmaids. Choose dresses that suit them all. Use a colour theme rather than asking teenagers to wear the frills and flounces that only look cute on the under-tens. Sit down with your groom and work out what he will be wearing. Most men hire their wedding attire and this needs to be done about for weeks in advance.

Eleven. You need to arrange your photographers to capture the big day. The photographer is possibly the most important professional you will need to enlist. Choose someone whose work you love, someone you have a great rapport with, someone who understands your needs, someone you would be happy to include as a guest at your wedding. Only you will be more visible on the day! Meet them to see examples of their work and only book someone who is flexible and has lots of ideas. Expect only the highest level of professionalism. Ask for confirmation of the booking in writing. Choose wisely, because once the flowers have faded, your photographs are all that’s left.

Twelve. Create a colour theme for the whole wedding and choosing your dress, the bridesmaids’ outfits, the flowers and the reception decorations couldn’t be simpler.

Thirteen. A good florist will work with you to create something to suit your individual style of wedding. Visit the venue about a month before the wedding to plan your room decorations. A room full of flowers will prove expensive, but two well placed displays can be both modern and stylish.

Fourteen. Invitations need to be sent out about two months in advance. There are many different designs from the formal to the hand-made.

Fifteen. Book your wedding transport and confirm the exact model of car and the colour if it's part of your theme.


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Sixteen. If you want your new surname on your passport to take on honeymoon, apply for the name change as soon as you can as this can take some time.

Seventeen. Seventeen. Start shopping around for the best deals for your honeymoon. Room upgrades, champagne, flowers and a free dinner are readily available for honeymooners. Once the honeymoon destination has been decided upon ask about necessary visas and make an appointment with your doctor for any inoculations.

Eighteen. Help your mum and future mother-in-law to choose their outfits. Ask your florist to design special corsages to match their colour schemes.

Nineteen. Go shopping with your groom for your wedding rings. It is a nice idea to have the rings engraved inside. Even just your initials and the wedding date are very romantic.

Twenty. Decide on the type of music you would like for the reception. A DJ is always a good option, but if you want to have live music, ask for demo tapes from potential groups and try to hear them live at least once. Remember, a live band will need to take regular breaks, so arrange for a good sound system to play your favourite music while the band are resting.

Twenty-One. Expect to pay at least £200 for a three-tiered traditional cake, a lot more if you want a cake with a theme. Save about half the cost of your cake by getting a clever mum or friend to make the basic cake then take it along to a professional to have it iced and decorated.

Twenty-two. Ring around all the local department stores and ask to be sent details of their wedding gift list services. Check the Web too for on-line gift services. Choose one or several stores and spend an afternoon choosing your gifts with your groom, your mum or your best friend. Ask someone in your family (try the Groom’s Mum) to be in charge of the guest list, ticking off names as and when they accept. Your venue will probably want you to confirm final numbers a week or two in advance.

Twenty-three. Obtain permission from your venues to throw confetti. If this is not permitted, tell your guests to bring rice, which the birds will eat, or rose petals.

Twenty-four. Visit your venue when it is not being used and plan your room decorations about one month before the wedding. Flowers everywhere are expensive and two well-placed displays can be just as effective.

Twenty-five. Book your first night accommodation. Visit all the local hotels and ask to see the bridal suite. Check what 'extras' are included in their honeymoon package. You might find them throwing in champagne, chocolates and a chauffeur-driven car to drive you to the airport the following morning.

Twenty-six. Disposable cameras are now de rigueur at every wedding. To get those shots the professionals would never dare to take, put a couple in the centre of each table at your reception. This gives your guests something to do and you’ll get a supply of wonderfully dippy behind-the-scenes informal pictures to supplement your album.

Twenty-seven. Buy gifts for the best man, ushers and bridesmaids. Have the gifts inscribed with your names and the wedding date. Ask your florist to prepare two very special bouquets as thank-yous for both mums. These are traditionally presented by the groom during his speech.

Twenty-eight. Have a trial run at the hairdressers a week or two before the big day. Take along your headdress and veil and even a Polaroid camera to make recreating your wedding hairstyle easier. Treat yourself to a make-up lesson with a professional. Take careful note of all the colours they use and how they use them so that you can do the same on your wedding morning.

Twenty-nine. Pack your honeymoon cases and take them to your first night hotel the day before the wedding. Nominate one of your bridesmaids or a close friend to pack up your wedding attire following the reception and store it for you until after the honeymoon.

Thirty. Assemble a small bag with your wedding day essentials, like a hanky, a lipstick, an aspirin, a comb and hairgrips and ask someone to keep it for you.

Oh, all right – Thirty-One! Smile, relax and above all have a wonderful day.

David Ireland (c) 2005 www.sandra-ireland.com